I was asked how I come up with things to write about and I have no idea, I am usually in the shower, or cooking dinner, or something niggles at me. I start and then here we are.
I am a massive fan of becoming the most authentic version of ourselves. The person we are destined to be. The best version of ourselves. A person of substance. Someone who is valued for the love they give and receive. Someone who exudes confidence and graciousness.
I want to be known for kindness, generosity, for having a laugh and for the way I loved my family. I don’t want to be remembered for being a snarky bitch. I don’t want to be remembered for always having an opinion and always needing to be right. Sometimes I am that person. I get on my own nerves. Do you ever get on your own nerves? Being aware of shitty traits is the first step to changing them. Think you have none? haha, well ask someone close…..
When things or people “grind my gears” I used to react. These days I take it that there is some lesson for me, am opportunity for growth and change. I stay calm and think, what is it about this person, conversation or situation that is irking me? Sometimes it comes to me straight away, other times it comes to me randomly. It’s a great tool for self managing behaviours.
My husband is a great balance for me. We are opposites. He’s an introvert, I’m an extrovert. He thinks before he speaks, I try to. He takes his time doing things, I like everything done yesterday. Anyway you get the point. We’re best mates and sometimes I have these light bulb moments during our chats. He has taught me to listen to people, actually listen to what they are saying, be an active listener. Too often we are itching to say what we want to say without taking full account of the message being relayed to us.
Social media is a perfect platform for seeing the best and worst in people. Sometimes it’s even just that we misinterpret the message they are trying to convey. I’m often told “you are much nicer in person” eeeeek! Must work on my online presence a little more. If you’re reading this and I’ve offended you online, in some way, accept this as an apology. My direct way of commenting /speaking often comes across a bit “cunty”…(excuse the language, but if you’ve known me in any capacity you’ll know I’m a swear bear). That’s not working on it is it ? hahahaha.
“KNOW BETTER, DO BETTER, SHOW BETTER” This is my mantra. Not better than you, not better than others, better than ME!… When I know better, I can do better, when I am doing better I can show others another way. Maybe that’s a better explanation?
The closer I get to knowing myself, the less others opinions, online comments and face to face judgments seem to affect me. Though I think this may be more about the company I keep than just a blanket approach.
Finding your tribe is so very important when becoming our authentic self. There is something very special when open, positive, loving, engaging women get together. There is a buzz on an energetic level that can’t be put into words. If you’re sitting and reading this and feeling alone and wondering what the hell I am talking about, remember a time when you met someone and you just clicked, they were kind and you wanted to know more about them?
Where are these people? Well it depends what makes your heart sing. If it’s running, join a womens running group, If it’s rock climbing, join a rock climbing group. For me it’s Yoga, Gym and now Hiking. Previously it was art lessons and pottery. Find your tribe. It might take you a few failed attempts but you will get there. It might be the local playgroup, the local senior citizens group. Don’t be put off by names, when we extend ourselves and go out of our comfort zones, that’s often where the magic happens. Most of all just be yourself and be open. Don’t flog a dead horse, trust your gut, you’ll know.
I have learned that I am not everyone’s cup of tea. Too loud, too excited, too silly, too intense, too fat, too vegetarian LOL! It’s perfectly fine. It’s perfectly fine for people not to like us. It doesn’t say that we’re unlovable, it doesn’t say they are too picky, it’s just we all are on different paths, needing different people in our lives.
When we accept ourselves we are freed from the burden of needing others to accept us.
When we accept ourselves we are freed from the burden of needing others to accept us. You will attract good people into your life if you see yourself also as a good person.
Just wingin it
Diffusing : Clarity
Wearing : Awaken
Listening to : Harry Potter