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I was a FAT bride and the world didn’t fall in a heap…<\/p>\n

Fat, a word to describe adipose tissue on a human. People get all kinds of crazy on the internet when you call someone fat, which is understandable because there has been years of negativity associated with the word.<\/p>\n

You would think describing yourself as fat woman would be more acceptable, but no, people get all kinds of crazy about that too. It’s all about context. I like to say “I have fat”, which I do, sometimes I have a little fat, sometimes I have a big old heap of fat.<\/p>\n

Every day we are bombarded with the concept that FAT = LAZY, FAT = STUPID, FAT = UNLOVABLE and you will never achieve success in life if you have a little more ‘cushion for the pushin’ .<\/p>\n

I was brought up by parents that were not fixated on looks or fashion. Dad likes kooky things, he likes printed t’s, paisley ties, multiple tattoos and a weird penchant for styling his beard. Mum likes to wear things that are flattering and comfortable. Growing up she rarely wore makeup and I don’t think she ever said negative things about her body in front of us.<\/p>\n

Fast Forward to my 38th year of life, I’d had 4 children, my weight had been everything from 50 something kilos to a whopping 111kg the day I was ready to give birth. Im 5ft3 (163cm?)\u00a0 and carry my fat around the tummy and bust.<\/p>\n

I have always been a confident, outgoing person, but body insecurities used to eat at me. It wasn’t until I started to honour my body by eating good food, finding exercise that I loved and doing Dru Yoga that I could say I loved and was at peace with my body.<\/p>\n

I planned the wedding of my dreams in about 6 weeks! I booked a florist, DJ, makeup artist, the venue, the celebrant within 2 weeks. I knew exactly what I wanted and was so excited.<\/p>\n

The thing that worried me the most was ‘The dress’, all the negative self talk was creeping in. I think I said to my husband “I hope I find something that fits, that doesn’t look ugly”. I was about a size 18 with a HH bra! These tatas were amazing!<\/p>\n

I probably should mention that I had recently given birth to my 4th child, she was a big baby and was obsessed with breastfeeding, I was a great cow so it makes sense. Hehe.<\/p>\n

I went with my friend to try on dresses. The lady in the store almost had a coniption when she heard we were about a month from the big day. She informed me people looked at and ordered dresses a year in advance these days, whoops sorry, didn’t get the memo about ‘everyone else’! What it meant was that I needed to find a dress that was in stock and have any alterations needed pronto.<\/p>\n

The first dress I tried on showed the fact I had a baby pouch (deflated pregnancy belly from giving birth 12 weeks before), I sighed, it fit. The lady rambled about how fishtail dresses would be great for me, I didn’t agree.<\/p>\n

The next dress I tried on was even less flattering.<\/p>\n

The third dress I tried on I teared up. I looked really good. Actually I looked bloody gorgeous!<\/p>\n

I was so excited, I bought it straight away and had a few minor alterations done.<\/p>\n

The wedding day came and everything went smoothly, everyone said I looked beautiful and I believed them.<\/p>\n

When the photos came back from the photographer I put all the ones up on Facebook that were the most ‘flattering’, the ones that made me look like I had the least fat. The were all lovely. I cringed at the ones showed my double chin, had my big mumma jugs hanging out or showed the big fat belly that I was hiding under the incredibly boned dress.<\/p>\n

That was UNTIL 2 years later. I have spent the last 2 years working on myself from the inside out. I owe my sanity and wellness to Dru Yoga and especially my teacher Dani. (There will be another whole blog about this). I went back through all the photos that I didn’t portay me in a way that I thought society would see as beautiful and worthy of the love my husband gives me. Guess what? I LOVE those photos the most now, they show me laughing, bent over with rolls and double chin, but they capture the absolute love and JOY I felt on that day.<\/p>\n

I posted those photos to Facebook for all to see. Nothing bad happened.<\/p>\n

I was a FAT bride and the world didn’t fall in a heap.<\/p>\n

Much Love,<\/p>\n

Just wingin it<\/p>\n

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Wearing :<\/strong> Joy<\/p>\n

Diffusing :<\/strong> Acceptance<\/p>\n

Listening to :<\/strong> Little Miss E playing<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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